I was doing my normal daily Facebook browsing when I stumbled upon a very great post. It went like this: 

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” 

She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”

Remember to put the glass down.

This really struck a chord in me because it’s something similar that I tell people a lot, but something that I don’t quite live out myself. I was born to fix things; people, problems, machines, computers, whatever. All my life I have tried to solve people’s problems, but rarely my own. I always tell people, “You don’t have to carry your burdens alone. No one should have to do that. Everyone has baggage, let me help you carry that.”

I have a ton of baggage, everyone does. I don’t push it on other people though. I feel like I’m strong enough, like I was blessed to be strong enough, to carry my own burdens and still have room to help others carry theirs. The only thing I ask is this: If I find myself needing help, and I choose you to reach out to, don’t turn me away. I don’t hand out trust easily, so if I reach out to you, then you deserve it.

Finally, I leave you with this:

Let me help you. You don’t have to carry your burdens alone. Everyone has their baggage, including me, but some people really need an extra hand to help carry it. I can be that extra hand. Besides, if you try carrying your baggage alone for too long, it’s only going to get heavier. 

I spent a few hours of my time last week listening to and figuring out how to play Garden by NeedtoBreathe. I was pretty stoked when my result was fairly close to an acoustic version of the song. So I decided to post my work online on Ultimate-guitar.com. I put it all in, had it formatted, and sent it in to be approved.

SUCCESS! I got it approved.

I click on the tab to see how it looks on the site and this is what I see:

Takedown notice

My heart drops. It literally breaks. One of my favorite bands removes something I spent tons of time on because it’s technically “copyright”.

Well guess what, NeedtoBreathe (or you greedy people who represent them), you’re WRONG. It is NOT copyright. It is 100% my own work. In fact, if I hadn’t labelled it with your band name and song title, you wouldn’t even know it’s your song. There’s no lyrics included, no actual copied material.

So I’m posting it here. For the world to see. Hopefully it get’s spread around and people can actually play the song like I know they want to.

And NeedtoBreathe, sharing is caring. Share the love of God by sharing your work. Not by keeping it locked in a cellar.

So here it is, in all of its “glory”:

This is at least CLOSE to the song. If you have any suggestions or corrections please
let me know. I did this by ear and by watching him play it a little bit live, and this is all my own
work. It took me a friggin’ long time so I hope you enjoy it.

Listen to the song to learn the tempo. ALSO SOUNDS GOOD TUNED A HALF STEP DOWN

Half step down tuning:


The main intro/verse rifts go like this:


*Whenever it sounds nice you can hit the open B string at the end instead of the last
open G.

Then for the chorus you can do this:

Chorus part 1Chorus part 2Chorus part 3

Chorus part 4

Then the whole thing pretty much repeats for the second half.

You can either pick or strum the chorus parts on the second half, it’s up to you. Make
the song your own and play around with it. If you have suggestions, feel free to post them!




Posted: November 19, 2012 in Uncategorized

News flash: Life’s hard.

Shocker, right?

We all go through our trials and tribulations, but it seems like some of us just have better luck than others.

Some of us start out “wealthy”, don’t have to work hard, and are naturally gifted with good looks and charm.  Some of us start out “poor”, but work hard to achieve our goals of being “wealthy”, and may still never end up being “wealthy.”  Now I’m not talking only about money here; I’m talking about self value.  How much self-worth do you have?  Take a moment to think about that.  How do you even define self-worth?  Do you find value in how much money you have?  How many long relationships you’ve had?  How many kids you have? In the fact that you have (or don’t have) a house, car, and food on the table?

Here’s one: how about a relationship with God?

I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life.  I’ve treated women poorly, treated men poorly, treated my friends and my family poorly.  At some point I’ve treated pretty much everyone poorly.  It’s taken me many years and many tears to change who I am and how I treat people. I’ve yelled at my youth pastor, my parents, my friends, my (ex) girlfriend.  I’ve had to sit there, wherever I was reflecting on myself and 
what I’d been doing wrong.

During all that self-reflection, tears, and heartache I finally realized something, realized what I’d been missing.  God.  Through the last 5 years of my life I had been missing God almost 83% of the time.  There were times (like when I went to Mexico and got re-baptized) that I had Him back in my heart and things were going well and I was treating people right, but for some reason I always slipped back into it.  Finally I just gave up.  I said “You know what God, I’m done trying! I’m done trying to get this right, when I always end up doing it all wrong. It’s your turn. Your turn to lead my life, I’m not driving this train anymore. It’s yours.”  I still haven’t gotten it right.  I’m still not perfect.  I still treat people poorly from time to time and I still give in to temptations.

But, I’ve at least identified and removed one of the biggest struggles in my life;  my ex (I won’t give her name, just because she’s not a bad person. It was just the relationship that was unhealthy).  I dated this girl for a year, we had sex, fell in love, thought about getting married, had pregnancy scares, shared lots of laughs and had lots of fights. There were a lot of fantastic times, but there were also a lot of temptations she was into that I shouldn’t be.  She was leading me down a path that would have never let me change the bad things in my life.

Ever since I removed that struggle from my life I’ve been able to control my actions and my words (most of the time, about 83% of the time, still not perfect).  I’ve been able to identify what I say and what I’m doing that really hurts people.  Most of the time, I can avoid those things.  I know I’m changing, but I’m still a work in progress.

A really amazing friend of mine named Jessica once told me, when I was taking my ex back and breaking Jessica’s heart again:

“…I said that because when I met you, you weren’t still the guy with your representation from high school, you told me the story of how you turned your life around for Emily, which is why I never saw myself as being “the reason” to quote the song. What dawned on me that day was, I have seen glimpses into that side of you. Most of the time when you’ve talked to me you’ve been the amazing guy I’ve fallen for. But the few times I’ve seen through the cracks, seen you lie, seen you do all kinds of things you’re not proud of, from my perspective it’s all been from (my ex). And I realize I’m biased and probably just sound jealous, and I am in no way trying to break you guys up or whatever because there’s obviously something about her you love and even if you broke up it would take a freaking miracle for me to talk to you again. I honestly am just worried about what will happen to you. I don’t want you to go back to that guy. I’ve heard a lot of crappy stuff about her and your relationship with her. So while yes I have a broken heart, I’m also worried about you. All I ask is that you be careful. And I guess that’s all I really have to say.”

At the time I kind of just shrugged it off, but going back and reading it, I realized she was right.  Almost everything bad in my life, that I had in highschool, came back when I was with her (my ex).  I just want to point out that my ex isn’t a bad person and I’m not trying to make her out to be.  She’s just not good for ME, and that’s why I’m telling you all this.

I thank God for the time I got to spend with her and the lessons I learned, and all the great laughs and things I got out of it.  I don’t have any hard feelings for her either, but our lives need to be separate.

I guess all this rambling really needs to go somewhere, so here it is.

Don’t let the mistakes of your past ruin your present.  Don’t fall back into old habits and old temptations just because you’re comfortable there.  You can be a better person than you are, I guarantee it.  I did it, after all.  Also, see people for who they are and not who they were.  Don’t listen to people who say “Oh, that guy? He’s a jerk and did this and this and this in highschool and treated this person this way”; you know why?  Because if you listen to that person you are judging a person by their prologue, and not the rest of the story.  You gotta read the whole book.

I’ve met some really great people in the last few months of my life, and I’m glad they see me for who I am, and not who I was.  Because, honestly, I am, who I am, about 83% of the time.

Hello world!

Posted: October 21, 2012 in Uncategorized

This is my first post ever on a blog! I have no idea what I’m doing and am probably going to have tons of rants and random thoughts on here. I hope you all bear with me and that we all have happy-lovey-fun-times ahead!!

Also, below you’ll see all my old Facebook “notes” that I’ve posted on here for your viewing pleasure.

For now, I leave you with this picture of a bear. Enjoy.

Life’s Not Fair

by A Minor Inconvenience


Who said life’s so fair?

Who said life goes anywhere?

Why do I have to fall asleep, crying?


Life’s not fair, but we have to take it

We’re going to fight, until we make it

Love’s not fair, it always changes

Beauty fades, your life it re-arranges.


It seems to me, that things can never be,

They just never happen at the right time.

I can’t have what I truely want,

Because the time is just not right, for us.


Who said life’s so fair?

Who said life goes anywhere?

Why do I have to fall asleep, crying?


Life’s not fair but we have to take it,

We’re going to fight until we make it.

Love’s not fair, it always changes

Beauty fades, your life it re-arranges.


So why do I, try to find,

The answers that I don’t want to hear?

And why do I, not listen to my mind,

When it’s telling me,

That I should just not fight?


It’s because life’s not fair.

Sometimes life just goes nowhere.

Sometimes I just have to lay there, crying.


It seems to me, that things can never be,

Things are still not changing at the right time.

I still can’t have, what I really want,

Because the time is still not right, for us.


And then you’ll find one day,

Where everything turns out right.

Things fall into place,

And you fall in my arms.


We can always be,

Where we truely want.

You just have to believe, in your heart.


I said lifes so fair,

I said life goes everywhere.

I no longer fall asleep, cring.


It seems to me,

It just took some time to be.

I can finally have, what I really want,

Because the time is finally right, for us.


Authors: Caleb Faulkner

Sabrina Spittles


Posted: October 21, 2012 in Old Facebook Posts

March 31, 2009:

Does anyone else notice, that when a guy and a girl break up, the typical response from women to the girl who got broken up with is “your better than he is.” or “he’s so not worth it.” etc.

What if he really IS worth it? what if he was the best thing you could possibly ever have, the person that was perfect for you and no one else can compare? Is lieing really justified to make somebody feel better about themselves? Is lieing ever justified so that it is right or almost-right?

Who knows.

The second part to that is, the friends of the girl that you break up with all begin to question you, thoroughly. Seriously, why the heck do you think you can start barging into our lives asking us about why we dumped her, or what went wrong, etc etc.? Why should we take being called all sorts of names because we couldn’t bare to be with a girl any longer, a guy never dumps a girl without a good reason, and that makes girls think that all guys are chumps.

Yes, I’ll openly admit, guys are stupid and just don’t know how to say what they are feeling sometimes, that is true. But that doesn’t mean that we do not care about girls, that does not mean that we are jerks, we may pull a dick move, but when we pulled it, we didn’t think about it being a dick move, and we always regret it more than any girl will ever understand.

So just give guys a little slack girls, please, we try to make you as happy as possible, and sometimes we feel like we’re not doing good enough, so we let you go so someone else can. It’s not cuz we hate you, it’s not cuz we don’t love you, it’s because we sometimes don’t think that we’re good enough for you. And we know that it’s usually a guys fault that a girl is upset, so we don’t need to be told by 1000 of her friends that we’re stupid K?

We have ourselves for that.

FURTHERMORE!!!!! If your best friend, or even a good friend, likes someone, do not ask that person to come over, do not stay behind when your friend leaves to hang out with the person your friend likes, and do not tell your friend that you don’t like them when plainly it shows that obviously something is going on. IT RUINS FRIENDSHIPS. Seriously, don’t hit on your friend’s crush. It’s a bad idea.

Unless you don’t care about being friends with your friend and you’d rather have their crush that is…

PS. Honestly, this has nothing to do with what has happened recently with my life, it’s what happened in someone else’s life, that I was observing, what the girls said to girls, and what the guy said to her, and what the friends said the the guy, etc etc. It just made me think.


Posted: October 21, 2012 in Old Facebook Posts

August 19, 2009:

You know, sometimes patience really really pays off.

Sometimes it doesn’t.

I find that having a lot of patience is really something that everyone should have. Sometimes having a lot of patience is really a hard thing to do, and sometimes, you just run out of patience.

Luckily for me, Lady luck stepped in right near the tipping point and showed me that being patient really is worth it, really get’s me what I want, and keeps me with what makes me happy.

I learned that sometimes it shouldn’t be all about you, just take a step back, wait for your turn, and then things will be all fine and dandy.

Yeah, being patient for a long period of time sucks, trust me, I know first hand. But I also know, that every time I have been patient and waited, I’ve never been dissapointed with the results. Ever.

All in all, just be patient people. You’ll get way better results from situations than ever before, don’t beleve me? Try being patient for once!